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 Happy Winter Solstice. Quote of the day is ..

“Look after yourself as you can only teach/look after others if you are well and your wells of wellbeing are full.”

Sent to me by a lovely head teacher of a inner city primary school that comes from Jenny Mosely and her Circle time model. I have been reminded twice by this particular head teacher to slow down and wait before  returning to running choirs until my well of well being is full, and to be honest it really is not. I had a particularly full on first half of the year, what with one thing and another and had felt a bit like I needed a sabbatical after a wondrous end of term concert in July which I single handedly constructed with the 3 current choirs and  a little help from a lots of people where we sang Keeping Faith. I was getting to the point where I felt like I wanted people to stop looking at me which is a bit tricky when you are at the front waving your arms around. ha ha .

I did not allow myself the luxury of taking care of myself enough, and preparations for the Autumn term were well and truly in place when my only mother became unwell and died so unexpectedly  my whole world just crashed around me. It took at least 10 weeks for me to get out of shock and continuous crying and now I just miss her and Christmas is sort of cancelled  – still cry everyday..that will be a curious day when I realise I did not shed a tear.

I was lucky to have so many people sending me love and prayer so was not alone, and  was prepared to do the massively stormy journey that grief can take you – though I had no idea how stormy it was going to be. ( When is this ever going to end? is a cry many people who have experienced loss will recognise and the feeling of waking every morning feeling sea sick) The amount of grief  can so  be linked to the amount of  love and I was very close to my mum and she would have been here with us at this time of year so like many people the time of year like so many times…( I  even have a Thursday problem now) is poignant.

I am doing a slow re-entry back into choir land. Next term starts with  one  lunchtime choir so I don’t sink into some sort of hermit-land depressive place and am going to spend some time regrouping and writing and have some quiet time where no-one is looking at me and I don’t need to be the one doing the looking after. I can be quiet and wait for the inspiration  to come to me, of which I have no doubt it will return . Once I have the energy again, as someone said, I will remember how much joy I got out of being with  people and us all singing together, but for now, what with there being constant rain and no sun and everything seems to say  hibernate hibernate  I am doing just that. It is a lesson to be learned and as yet I have still not really learned the one of knowing what I need to keep the old well of wellbeing full. Will keep on working on it. If your work involves teaching or caring for others it is so important. In some countries teachers have a sabbatical every several years which makes so much sense, and if you have ever had a job which entails looking after others( which includes being a parent or a partner or a friend) you will know just how draining it can be if you are not looking after yourself so take care my friends, grab the oxygen mask first.

As It is winter solstice I am scattering our Winter Solstice song everywhere I can as it is the only day really that we can sing it with utter here and nowness. take care x




  Happy Winter Solstice! It is all light from now on, the days get lighter from right now. This is really the first day ! The new birth, the new life. That’s why so many religions have big festivals round this time as it is the time to come from the dark into the light. Hurrah! A good reason to have 11 pipers giving us a bit of a tune. I suppose we should be thankful that there are not 11 pipers actually piping, particularly so early in the morning, though if they were good scottish pipers or, celtic/ breton pipers all would be well, and we could do a lot worse than them bringing in the solstice.  I drew 9 pipers and then lost the will so Mr P. drew the 2 last pipers ( the small ones). There used to be a bloke who played the pipes in Hampstead Heath, probably still does. When taken to court, because everyone know that the by-laws at HH outlaw the playing of any musical instrument! Rumour has it that he got away with playing in the park because the bagpipe is not actually a musical instrument, but an instrument of war -particularly when played badly! This piper plays very nicely  and was then allowed to practice in the park once a week. I remember going to Parliament Hill for a cuppa one early Wednesday morning and he was practising in the bandstand – I even bought his cd, and now how rude that I do not even remember his name.  Anyway….I bet you are soooooo looking forward to tomorrow when the  12 drummers arrive, and the day after that when you get to hear the whole thing in its entirety. Well not quite…that is saved for christmas eve…..which is in fact my wedding anniversary.

Still feeling lousy but have been doing all the right things – hot epsom salt baths, onion soup, ginger, honey and lemon and lots of duvet time. Have watched some really bad tv… I know I am ill!