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Transgender Day of Remembrance

Today is  Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDoR)  it is a day to take some time to remember those who have been killed as a result of transphobia, or the hatred or fear of transgender and gender non-conforming people, and acts to bring attention to the continued violence endured by the transgender community.

Over the world there will be lots of events, walks and candle lit to remember those who have been killed.

This day gives me an opportunity to stand side by side, and show my total support to my transgender brothers and sisters. I find the hatred that I see from people who fear non-conformity  particularly sexual, to be very scary. As a hetrosexual woman, or maybe I am a gay man in a woman’s body, or perhaps I am a lesbian and Mr P. is a gay woman in a man’s body…who knows, I am standing side by side and defending and celebrating all people who feel passionately they were born in the wrong body and need to change, and then need to be recognised and accepted in their change.

Yesterday we went to the local and drank tea and coffee and sort of pretended we do this sort of thing a lot (it feels like we rarely do, or not enough anyway) it was nice, feeling like I was on the set of Friends, with some friends.

SONG OF THE DAY – I Will Survive -from Priscilla Queen of the Desert sung by Gloria Gaynor

One of my favourite movies and the aboriginal chanting and digereedoo playing at the end of the track is soooo cool. Many comments on the youtube video (some a bit on the  course side) but interesting that people pick up the support of this moment of the film between two communities who had suffered hatred and oppression, the feeling of this song being sung to aboriginals by a gay man, a drag queen and a trans  is very poignant, and funny too. The fact they are supporting each other is a lovely moment in the film.

This song is dedicated to all my friends past, present and future!

First here is my Christmas Sinlge/Video, made for £3 and 100 years ( there are 2 of us) practise. I wrote my ‘song of the day’. It is titled  – Friends. I happened to watch a touching and apt  movie last night called My Best the topic of the day is…I kid you not..  friends.

I love French Cinema for many reasons, one is I  usually don’t have to put up with any idiot soundtracks – ‘oh pizzicato strings…it must be a funny bit’…check out how many ‘blockbusters’ use this nonsense use of music.. I love France and wish my French was up to it, as I would be there like a shot, living i in some beaten up apartment above a bakery or cottage somewhere. Sadly being a bit dyslexic, I find I have remembered every word I  learned in my O’level days, but my short term memory and ability to take in anything new is, and always has been….pants.. There is also a depth and poignancy  in French film you do not get in so much other cinema. The French definately resonate from their hearts and it seems to come through in so much of their cinema. The Prophet …best film I saw last year, gritty and so well observed.


So My Best Friend is the perfect film for anyone  who is spending their time musing over one of the post-a-day ideas for a blog title.  I will not spoil it for you,  but recommend it. It asks all the right questions about ‘what and who is a friend’.It also has a great little plot, as well as a lot of beautifully sensitive  and funny moments. Daniel Auteil is one of my favourite actors. Don’t be put off by bumf on the poster ‘popularity contest’  nonsense . It is quality.

So friends ha!  very complicated and the discussion could go on and on. So I shall just ask the following questions …

who might  you call at 3am in the morning?( and I am not meaning a cab or the 24hr pizza parlour )

who is not going to mind if you cancel?

who is going to tell you that they mind if you do?

who do you want to take with you when you decide to emigrate?

who is a constant, even if you don’t see them for weeks, years, their place in your heart is somehow permanently tattooed?

who makes you laugh at yourself?

who knows you and understands you, and makes you feel like you are an easy person to get on with, and not a messed up, complicated hard to understand type of being?

is that all too much to ask?

No I do not think so, but friends like flowers, need to be nurtured and cultivated ( not over watered though and in this day and age, the busy busy lifestyle makes it very easy for many of  us to forget to keep in touch – my hand  is up first…guilty as charged. So here I am reminding myself, as does my song to thank the Lord ( which ever one/thing you want to thank..) for these friends of mine. Thanks.

SONG OF THE DAY ( there are 2 )

FRIENDS written  and performed by Gitika and Mickey B. Goode on album ‘bittersweet by gitika’  its available to buy on itunes and amazon -it earned me $20 last year ( the whole album that is…..not alot)  -just guitar and voice buy it here

and click on the title-friends to listen to it all the way through ON SPOTIFY

‘you took the time to listen to me moan , bout the trouble in my head, let me sit and cry, worries now have all run dry, it;s so good that the problem’s shared’ and PLACE IN MY HEART written by me and Andrew McCrorie-Shand in 2017 listen by clicking HERE