there are several, and it seems only right to mention them over and over again in 17 sentences when one would sufice…as i am female!

I need some file cards for a project and yes  – you guessed it, I have thrown them away ( into the recycling of course) during my last decluttering session. They had been taking up space in my office for the last 10 years, in one of those funny little dusty file card boxes which seem a bit old fashioned now. I kept them as I thought they would be useful…one of those ‘just in case’ objects that fill up the space around me. I really felt I had kept onto them for long enough. Now I am going to have to go out and buy some more….I have a theory that there is a little blip in the old clutter clearing theory that we have not yet sorted out. I think it is a ‘cosmic universal thing’ that somehow if you let go of some things they just come back to bite you on  the bottom. Sadly I have not the time to do the research into this, but I would like to know if I am the only one who has come across this puzzling little phenomemon.

It always happens to me if I accidentally lose or put on weight. I loose a stone…keep all the big clothes just in case, then as soon I send them to the chazza shop, I put the weight back on. Same happens if I put on weight and keep the smaller clothes, you can bet your bottom dollar the moment I send them off to a better place, I lose the weight. Ring any bells?

I have another niggling thought in my mind that the file cards did not go in the recycling, I put them in a ‘safe place’, and will only find them if I buy some new ones.

It is still raining and I have the heating on, in the middle of May. Happy Days. x x

SONG OF THE DAY    KT Tunstall-Black Horse and the Cherry Tree

I was reminded of this as my mate AO has done a blindin acapella version of this song. This video live version is a great piece of live looping and cracking  singing.

It has been in the news quite a lot lately that we are about to hit the 7 billion mark on the planet. This piece of data has been on my mind a lot. Read Dark Vador’s blog here’s the link!  DV has a link on her posting today, to the BBC website which can calculate how many people were on the planet on the day you were born. I am completely staggered to find that since I was born, the population of the world has more than doubled.

It has doubled and added an extra billion on top! I still find it amazing that so many  people do not seem to be as  bothered about adding to that figure with having extra kids, or for that matter, kids at all. Many people think the problem  of overpopulation exists only in  places like Africa. In my humble opinion there is an underlying ‘us and them thing’, ‘Western world vs. Third world’ thing going on here, that I am really not comfortable with. Do  people in the West seem to think that their consumation of the planet which includes the bearing of children  is less of an issue? Why?

Also someone sent me a poster today about a non-consumer day in November…’don’t buy anything for a day’, perhaps people should try not making babies for a day instead – no sex for a day, it might at the rate the planet is filling up, do more good than me not going down the local shops and buying a pound of carrots. Then people gasp and get on their moral high horses, being all pro-lifey and sentimental. My shout to them is “get a life…your own!”

Once again, someone had a go at me for the amount of coats/jackets I own. Once again, let me put this into perspective for a minute.  I do not own a car, so I am outside in all weathers.  I do not have any children, so I do not have to buy anyone else coats apart from myself. I am older, so have had longer to keep my coats…some of my coats are very old. I have probably bought a coat /jacket every 2 years of my life. I send my coats to the charity shop when they are not being used, so someone else get to use them when I am finished with them. Some people have a child every two years of their adult life and then they have to buy the child a coat every 2 years and then all their children, and their children……..shut up about my coats and shoes and look at your own stuff…….

Blimey did I get out of bed on the wrong side this morning? Actually I feel very strongly about people’s lack of thought and responsibility about just ‘having another baby’ when the world is on the brink of a population explosion, especially people who are supposed to be intelligent and responsible. There are unwanted babies and orphans a plenty for everyone to have someone to care for, without having to have another opportunity to see one’s own gene pool multiply. This is a political as well as moral debate.

I am sort of jesting here, but also am not. I have many friends who have children and I love them and their children..I am in no way bitter (really!) but I am sure DV and many of my child free friends would agree that we are  often looked at as  being selfish or freaks. A quote from a blog! I read somes it up “The poor childless couple are so wrapped up in themselves, you have to feel sorry for them. They don’t fight over the child’s discipline, don’t blame each other for the child’s most obnoxious characteristics, and they miss all the fun of doing without for the child’s sake. They just go along, doing whatever they want, buying what they want and liking each other. It’s a pretty pathetic picture.”  It is not so easy not having kids with opinions like this around. The pressure in this world to have kids is immense. You really have to break the mould in some ways, to walk this planet without a child from your gene pool hanging off your arm. There are many places where being childfree is still difficult. You have to work hard on your sense of self, and know that parenting is not  just about giving birth or sowing the seeds. I  joyfully parent many children, and many children are joyfully parented by me, would do it more if people were not so attached to “owning their kids”. Also much of the way you have friends in a community is through having kids, so it can be very lonely not being part of the school run, the kids parties, etc etc….you can end up feeling like a bit of a mis-fit. I have often been in social situations with all women and I am the only child free woman in the room. I made a conscious choice not to add to the exploding population, and am often treated as some sort of wierdo. ha ha!

Robert Smith from the Cure, when interviewed by The Guardian  “So he’s never wanted to pass on his own genes? “I’ve never regretted not having children. My mindset in that regard has been constant. I objected to being born, and I refuse to impose life on someone else. Living, it’s awful for me. I can’t on one hand argue the futility of life and the pointlessness of existence and have a family. It doesn’t sit comfortably. I really understand that too. Enough ranting for one day, I is going down the amusement arcade.

SONG OF THE DAY – The Cure – Close to Me

The most amazing video directed by Tim Pope. Robert Smith is nearly my twin. Our astrological charts both look like hamster wheels as everything aspects everything and there is a planet in almost every sign in the first few degrees.  I would like to meet him one day and swap life stories.

They have come into town and they want to do all the tourist things. I just want to stay in my  London ‘manor’ and chill with them. But oh no..they are sick of local and want to do touristy things, so I am now tour guide extrodinaire as well as hostess with the mostest (I wish, much to opinionated to ever be that!). I wonder what would happen if I lived in say…Crewe, or Ashby-de-la-Zouch and there was no London Eye or Tower of London or museums…people who came to visit would have to make cakes with me and help me decide what colour to paint the corridor, instead of running round town spending too much money on bad food and beverages.

So we went out yesterday and actually had a really lovely day. I did my best to wear them out, which was easier than I thought as the neighbours had gone away and their teenage offspring sat on their veranda until 2.30am getting roaringly, abusively drunk, so my friends  were quite tired to start with, from  sleep deprivation.

We went to Canary Wharf and the Dockland Museum which is free and immensely informative. There is a section which is done out like an old dockland street with small alleys and houses, and it actually smells authentic too….like someone peed on the floorboards to give it that….latrine-free feel.

We then walked down the Thames Path from Canary Wharf to Tower Bridge which was great, and very quiet until we got to the Tower of London which was MOBBED. Tourist hot-spots…to be avoided at your peril! We then hopped onto a train and went to Spitalfields, which might as well have been closed…by then, they were really flagging, so we went home on a bus ( a 10 hour trip though) But no let up today. They are off to the London Eye, and I am not playing. I am staying at home.

During our day out, we had some ok food  and some really inoffensive food….with no character what so ever. More of that later. One pet hate I have is when places put something on the menu, run out of an ingredient and just replace it with another with out a blinking by your leave! Porridge with Maple Syrup at Browns came as Porridge with some sort of  seriously sugary yellow syrup…which is a completely different thing. Maple syrup is the sap from a tree  and yellow syrup is just  some sort of refined sugar by product. ‘Sorry’ they say when I point out the error, ‘we ran out of Maple Syrup so we are giving you a cheap alternative to it, and we did not bother telling you, because we are assuming you have no sense of taste and would not notice the difference.’ Harsh? I don’t think so when you are paying almost 4 quid for a bowl of porridge, and the difference in price between an egg cup of maple syrup and other syrup would be pretty marked.

Interesting that I am talking about sugar which apart from the occasional treat of a bit of maple syrup, I have not eaten  for 4 months, and feel much better for it.  At the Docklands Museum I saw that in the 1820’s many people in England started to boycott using sugar, because of its link with the slave trade. English ceramic manufacturers responded by making sugar bowls and tea sets inscribed with anti-slavery slogans, though if people were boycotting sugar, I wonder what they put in their sugar bowls?  A Birmingham newspaper in Norwich reported “sugar is now positively banished from most polite and fashionable tea-tables” .

I shall finish today’s post with a funny by Mr P. during our day out, who when comparing espresso to an americano said that he found espresso a really unsatisfactory drink as he liked to ‘form a relationship with his hot drink’, and there just was no time to do that with an espresso. Oh well, it was funny at the time. More on inoffensive food later.

SONG OF THE DAYChromeo – Bonafied Loving

The two childhood friends jokingly describe themselves as “the only successful Arab/Jewish partnership since the dawn of human culture.”

I just really like this track and the video.





It is a lovely summers evening. A Monday evening. About 8.30pm on the heart of the City of London, a beautiful City.  I look. I see litter, piled up – any surface that will surfice is a place where litter is. Almost all of it from people’s take away suppers and drinks. Monday night and the City looks like everyone has been having a take-away party on their way home. We don’t have many bins  in the centre of our city,  just in case someone puts a bomb in them…many people assume if there is no bin, permission is granted to not give a flying ferk. Someone else’s problem.  In a hurry, don’t care…oh there’s a pile of debris…if other people can do it…so can I…….someone else will clear it up….boooo hisssss.

 People are politely asked to take their litter home with them, but it really does not seem to be working. Like the old ‘driving while using a mobile phone’, there is a fine for dropping or discarding litter, but no-one seems to bother.  So we live with the mess until the fairies come and clear it all up in the middle of the night  before the new day starts. Someone else will clear up…… …….Someone else’s problem…It makes me sad.

SONG OF THE DAY-  Stupid Girl -Garbage

Great link huh? Good song too. All about Garbage ( the band)